Escape From Pianosa

So it’s kinda ironic that most people find my site in search of ways become more extroverted. Ironic because I am most definitely an introvert, although I should point out that being an introvert doesn’t mean you’re shy or nervous around other people. This I learned while reading The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney.

Yes, it turns out that you can be a very outgoing introvert, although the behavior we associate with extroverts–going to parties, social events, and big gatherings–really sucks the energy out of introverts like myself. Hence the fact that I tend to disappear socially every once in a while when I run out of steam. In fact, before reading this book, I thought there was something wrong with me. I really love parties and meeting new people and yet I often feel like I need to be alone.

The inverse is also true; extroverts can be shy. Imagine needing lots of social interaction to feel good about yourself and yet being too shy to meet new people. A deadly combination.

I suspect that the people who come to this blog looking for advice on how to extrovert themselves are shy people who want to be more outgoing and socially comfortable. I’ve mentioned ways to do that in previous entries and it mostly involves putting yourself out there and practicing “outgoingness.” There are no easy fixes. That being said..if you’re an introvert, then you should learn about your strengths and play up to them. Living in an extrovert world is tough, but very manageable.